I don't know you as a person, so forgive me if I take a sight confidential tone. And of course what I say might not apply to you at all -- it's just an opinion. ^^
First, I understand the not-having-dreams part. I mean, going to Japan is one dr---OBSESSION of mine, but after achieving it, I think I'll feel somehow empty, too. My ideas about the future are still vague, they merey include an ideal scenario of a tranquil but happy life full of hobbies and people I like, so that's what I'm aiming for. :) (which in turn means I have to find a good job!etc. etc.)
Second, um. It would take me a page to explain myself properly, but from what I've gathered (with numerous exceptions of course, let's not be totalists!) :
Otaku people are generally more introverse, and don't socialize as easily, which in turn makes them cling to fandom even more, as a refuge from society who finds them still "childish", which is a never ending circle, because by not actively seeking company, afraid for rejection, they don't make friends outside from the web. In my case, this applied up to a few years ago. Having grown up rather lonely, I've developed lonely hobes such as reading fics -you don't require company for that- and I was just fine with it, athough it was difficult for others to believe it. XD When I started making friends outside the web and evolved into a more sociable girl I noticed I started to slowly detach from fandom. And when I started working, which raised my self confidence to new levels --that period I felt I didn't even /need/ any internet at all. I slowly fixed that social aspect.
HOWEVER, I find myself older than 20 with still no boyfriend. Surely, finding a life-partner (ok, even a mere boyfriend) fills you with plans of what to do on your life. I was just wondering what were your thoughts on it. You don't have to answer if you don't feel like it, whether you are single or not is none of my business; I was just wondering if this emptiness you say you feel is because you need someone to share your life with, that's all. :) Maybe more than friends -although they are a necessary part of life too!- what you need is a relationship.
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First, I understand the not-having-dreams part. I mean, going to Japan is one dr---OBSESSION of mine, but after achieving it, I think I'll feel somehow empty, too. My ideas about the future are still vague, they merey include an ideal scenario of a tranquil but happy life full of hobbies and people I like, so that's what I'm aiming for. :) (which in turn means I have to find a good job!etc. etc.)
Second, um. It would take me a page to explain myself properly, but from what I've gathered (with numerous exceptions of course, let's not be totalists!) :
Otaku people are generally more introverse, and don't socialize as easily, which in turn makes them cling to fandom even more, as a refuge from society who finds them still "childish", which is a never ending circle, because by not actively seeking company, afraid for rejection, they don't make friends outside from the web.
In my case, this applied up to a few years ago. Having grown up rather lonely, I've developed lonely hobes such as reading fics -you don't require company for that- and I was just fine with it, athough it was difficult for others to believe it. XD
When I started making friends outside the web and evolved into a more sociable girl I noticed I started to slowly detach from fandom. And when I started working, which raised my self confidence to new levels --that period I felt I didn't even /need/ any internet at all. I slowly fixed that social aspect.
HOWEVER, I find myself older than 20 with still no boyfriend. Surely, finding a life-partner (ok, even a mere boyfriend) fills you with plans of what to do on your life. I was just wondering what were your thoughts on it. You don't have to answer if you don't feel like it, whether you are single or not is none of my business; I was just wondering if this emptiness you say you feel is because you need someone to share your life with, that's all. :) Maybe more than friends -although they are a necessary part of life too!- what you need is a relationship.